I left for boot camp on 26 DEC 1984. The first Christmas I was home for was in 1986. I came home for about 3 or 4 weeks. I can’t remember all of the presents but PJ wanted a BB gun. Those of you who knew our mother know she didn’t care for weapons. I couldn’t have a BB gun growing up. Mom and I had long discussions about it. I actually tried to push for a .22 Rifle but it didn’t go anywhere. So after all the discussions and promises to teach him how to use it safely I was allowed to get him one. Read the rest of this entry »
Phil seeks advice from his older brother…. by Art Dykeman
December 19, 2008It was brought to my attention that I need to be careful with my use of ERMAs Easily Recognizable Military Acronyms So I will try and spell them out first.
MTF = More To Follow
Phil was going to school in Brockport studying Criminal Justice. I had been in the Navy for a little over 5 years, a First Class Petty Officer, and was stationed at the Naval Ship Yards In Brooklyn NY NY (we were moving the base functions to Staten Island). I had been there for about 6 to 8 Months I guess and the 1st gulf war was happening.
I was working in the Cabinet/Carpenter Shop one day when my Chief came in and told me I had a phone call in his office from a Marine Master Sergeant. My Chief then started to ask me why was a MSgt was calling me, What did I do, Was he going to see a report from base security, why didn’t I tell him I had done something to the local Marines, Who else was involved.. Well you get the idea. Read the rest of this entry »
Phil’s Brother Art – by Art’s Wife Judy
December 1, 2008I am Judy Dykeman, Art’s wife and this is my observation.
We should all be so blessed to have the emotional strength that Art has. This remarkable man has had so much loss in his short life. A lesser person would have crumbled. Not Art. His philosophy in this life is “move ahead smartly”. As abnormal as I think this is, (maybe cuz I’m a woman) it somehow works for him. I envy his ability to do that.
Art is one of those guys that sees the glass as half full. He’s truly grateful for what he has and doesn’t dwell on what is gone. Instead of being over-come with grief & sorrow as I expected he would be, he’s not. He’s just simply proud of the man that Phil was. He gets strength from that. I asked him a lot early on “are you bitter or angry”? He had several standard answers. My favorite one is “this is not my first rodeo” as he says with a half-smile and tear just about to roll down his chubby cheek.
As the days go by I can’t say it’s gotten any easier to except Phil’s passing. But from this unfortunate event, Phil has unknowingly created a stronger bond. A bond appropriately named “Teamdykeman”. Funny how life works.
So what I’ve observed in these last months is that Art is right. (I hate it when that happens) It is to our advantage to “move ahead smartly”.
I’m proud to be the wife of Art Dykeman and even more honored to be a part of his amazing family.
See Andrew run… and run… and run
November 7, 2008Below are videos of Andrew’s odyssey over 26.2 miles in the City of Oaks Marathon. I watched all 3 prior to posting and I think Kathy is right the Bateman’s certianly have the crying gene. Go ahead, I dare you watch all 3… Read the rest of this entry »
I did It!
November 5, 2008We did it, is more like it. I finished the Marathon in 5 hours 1 minand 22seconds. Not bad. It was because of all of the support that I received that I was able to run the “City of Oaks” Marathon. There was never a point that I wasn’t going to finish. I would never disrespect a Fallen Marine. I ran for my Cousin Phil, I know that he was with me. I wished he was there to carry me. But it is our job to help carry on his memory.
Thank you for all that have contributed and to all that will continue to. This is not over. Later this week I will get an update on how much we have raised for the Captain Philip J. Dykeman Memorial Scholarship Fund. I know that we have not reached out goal, YET! The website www.teamdykeman.com ,by Friday, will have a total. We will also have a video and pictures of the Marathon.
As I ran through the finish line the announcer said” # 139 is Andrew Bateman member of Team Dykeman. He is running for Captain Philip J Dykeman, United States Marine Corps. He was killed in Iraq in June.” I didn’t catch the rest, I was pointing to the sky. Paying my own tribute. ” WE DID IT” Read the rest of this entry »
Andrew did it! by Kathryn Shoults
November 4, 2008Hello to everyone
Andrew did it! 26.2 miles and smiling at the finish line ( and he didn’t even know there was a massage at the end) Amazing doesn’t even begin to come close to the man or the event-I know I look forward to whatever is next and the time spent together helping. The sacrifices, effort and time(money ,too) to create a lasting legacy for someone that I love, we all love, and miss so very much…well somehow it’s starting to come together for me and I see a glimpse of the “good that comes from everything”. Thank you Andrew. I love you. And Phil–I love you too.
Love Kathryn
(Captian Phil’s Sister)
Thoughts on two young men
October 29, 2008
I want to share with you my thoughts on two young men that I’ve known and loved their entire lives.
The first, my godson & first cousin, Philip lost both parents at an early age. He struggled with that, but chose to get a degree and enlist in the United States Marine Corps. His career was extremely successful, frequent deployments allowed him to visit many countries. As a commanding officer with the rank of Captain, Philip was stationed in a small community in Iraq where he was much respected. In June a suicide bomber ended his life and that of two other marines and several locals. Phil left behind his lovely wife, Ginger, Austin (9) and adorable twins, Ashlee and Emilee (6).
The second is my youngest brother, Andrew. He and Phil, always close, were both alter boys at my wedding. The loss of his good friend has inspired him to action. He has been training for months to run a 26k marathon this weekend. (I don’t remember him running for anything except dessert!) He and another brother, Peter have developed a web site:
www.teamdykeman.com
I would appreciate you visiting the web site. Andrew and TeamDykeman plan to raise $15,000 to establish a scholarship in Phil’s name. If everyone sent just a few dollars the goal would be met. Phil’s children, Austin and the twins are now in the same school district their father was and will graduate from the high school he did in Central Square. The family was deeply moved by the people of Oneida County on the day of Phil’s funeral. The 23 mile trip from funeral home to church and then cemetery was lined with wonderful people of all ages, some in uniform, waving or holding flags in honor of a young man many didn’t know anything about except that he had been raised in the area. There were literally hundreds of people, many had waited hours for the procession to pass them.
With pride, love and respect for these two young men….
Have a safe Halloween weekend,
Mary Bateman-Ferry
p.s. for those of you not living in NYS, YES, there is some snow on the ground this a.m.!
A note from Art Dykeman….
October 28, 2008I am Phil’s older brother Art and I wanted to say thank you in advance for your support in this endeavor.
I have a tendency to ramble… so you may want to get a beverage before proceeding.
First off I want to thank everyone who has put this together for my brother, if you have not or are not mentioned but should be blame cousin Andrew…
Just kidding.
Ya see Andrew has been working on this for a while and is very passionate about the project, it’s progress and it’s prospects. He calls pretty regularly to let me know how and what things are going on. A typical conversation with him on this topic sorta sounds like this:
RunnningthemarathonforPhilgotPeterhelpingthewebsiteCindyCrouse..IN HALE..
hasbeenagreathelpohandsheremembersyouwerethebeststudentwiththebestgrades ..
IN HALE.. goinggranttheschoolarshipsent450emailsout.. IN HALE..
MikeisrunningtheUSMCMarathonwithmenextyear.. IN HALE..
Well you get the idea. He is very excited as we all are.
It has been almost 4 months since Phil past. I can’t say that they have all been easy. I will tell you though that I am still more proud than sad. Not only of Phil but of the community that helped pay homage to him during the funeral. The images in my head are clear and detailed as if I am standing there right now. What the people of this community did for my brother was humbling and they should be EXTREMELY proud of what they have done and continue to do every day. For those that were not there you can find photos on the web I will tell you it was the most impressive display I have ever seen.
The events around my Brother’s funeral moved me to take a good look at what I have done for the place I grew up in. I felt and still feel very guilty that I had/have not given back to the community that gave my family and I so much, at least not to the degree I feel I should have.
TeamDykeman, his Blog, the Scholarship drive, the dedications are a beginning and I am glad that my cousins have taken the ball and run with it.
I don’t believe we are done here though. I don’t know how or what I will do to follow suite but I still owe.
In the coming weeks I plan on writing some stories about Phil, and encourage anyone who wants to share their stories as well for a few of reasons:
1. So his kids will know their father like I(we) did
2. For those that follow him through this scholarship
3. For us to remember and never forget
Tribute to Central New York
October 26, 2008I live in Raleigh, North Carolina, I will probably live here the rest of my life. But when anyone asks where I am from, I reply proudly that I am from Central New York. My Father Graduated from Syracuse in 1949. Canʼt wait for Basketball season. We travel home every year to our family’s camp on Chase Lake in the Adirondacks. I have family all over Central New York. People from this area are some of the best people in the world. I have always known it, but the respect shown by the patriotic people of this area the day of Captain Philʼs funeral, was awesome.
Below please read the letter of thanks sent by Master Chief Petty Officer Arthur Dykeman, US Navy, Captain Philʼs older brother, to the Post Standard. We chose the Paul V. Moore High School scholarship fund as a tribute to Captain Phil and the people of Central New York. It is our hope that not only will Phil’s children benefit from this scholarship but also others from this great area. Read the rest of this entry »
The ball is rolling….
October 22, 2008Mrs. Cynthia Crouch has been instrumental in helping us set up the scholarship. Many Thanks to her. She also is spreading the word. this went out to the staff of Paul V. Moore High School. Mrs. Crouch is a Guidance Counselor at the school, and was for all three Dykeman children. She has really been great to work with.
“Andrew
I put out your email to all of the our staff and have heard back from a couple of staff members that they needed kleenex after reading. You really worded this so well, Andrew. Having said that, one of the staff asked if you had placed this in the Citizen Outlet and/or the Syracuse Post Standard (Oswego edition) newspaper and thought I might give you a heads up on that as there could be people who knew Philip (in class or school or community) that might want to contribute. Hope this helps. Cindy”
So let’s get the ball rolling… I know these are tough times… but we need every bodies help to kick-start the scholarship fund. For information on making a donation click here… https://teamdykeman.wordpress.com/about/
Always faithful,
Andrew
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